Why does everything seem perfect at the beginning of communication?

Hi! You've probably felt that online correspondence starts to develop so smoothly that it seems - finally. Everything matches: interests, sense of humor, ease of conversation. The interlocutor is open, smart, even kind of beautiful (well, if the photo is not from 2014). And you almost subconsciously think: here it is!

This is not magic. This is the normal work of the brain. It loves to draw. Especially when you are on international online dating sites and you come across someone who "goes well". We tend to fill in the gaps. Imagination works faster than logic and now you are already imagining how good you are together, although you don't even really know each other

Dating online sites give a sense of choice. And when there is a choice, you want to believe that you have chosen correctly. But in the beginning, almost everyone shows their best side. You too. Me - even more so) And all this creates an image that can be both real and an illusion.

Does this mean that online dating doesn't work? No. It's just important to stop at some point and look at a person without expectations. Because best way to meet women online is not about chasing an ideal. It's about being able to see who's in front of you - beyond phrases, avatars and flirting.

Listen to yourself. Analyze, but don't overdo it. And don't be afraid to make a mistake, sometimes a real person behind the screen turns out to be even more interesting than a fictitious one.

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