Why I message first on dating site

In the world of online dating services, one question sparks endless debate: who should write the first message? Is it the man’s job to make the first move, or is that rule a thing of the past? As a woman navigating international dating site, I say it's time to let go of old-fashioned rules.

We've been told to wait. Wait for him to make the first move and to plan the date. And on some relationship websites, this still feels like the norm. It can lead to a lot of time spent staring at a blank screen, waiting for a "hello" that may never come.

But why? When we're using these sites to find love online and build genuine connections, does it really matter who types first? In my experience, a woman making the first move shows confidence and cuts through the noise. It breaks the ice and shows you're taking an active role in your own dating journey, not just passively waiting to be chosen.

So, when I think like, "Should I message him?" The answer in my head is a resounding "Yes!" Ditching the outdated rules. The worst that can happen is he doesn’t reply. The best that can happen? I just might start a conversation that leads to something truly special.

Anastasia

20.09.2025
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